Speak Now - Cyrus H. Merchant

This timeless article is a plea. A need for the day. There are many things that haunt us from our past. But nothing more than the feeling of  'if only I'd have told someone about this..' But if you're one of the lucky few who's never experienced this, then read on, because there's something you need to do. Something we all need to do.
                                                                      Speak now
Just because you do not understand someone or something, doesn't give you the right to reject. Some people are unable to rise above the life that has happened to them. It is for them that other people exist. Every now and then you need somebody to raise you from where you have fallen, it's the give and take of universal balance, the happy heart reaching out to the silenced one, the sturdy mind giving shelter to the broken one, people for people. When this commitment is kept by each individual, unhappiness has no place. But human beings fail to adhere to the help-oath, we fail to see who really needs us and when, and the other person's easy chance of survival is lost carelessly. We are responsible for each other, the bird kingdom cannot brush our blues away, only humans can, together any onslaught can be overcome by us; it's an easy world really. Life's not at all bad as it seems when things are bad, if only people would be there for people. 
 It takes two tiny keys to unlock any door. Love, understanding. With these two keys you can liberate anyone from anything. Two tiny keys and yet few use them. Love might be difficult, but understanding? Just because you do not understand someone or something, doesn't give you the right to reject. Because you don't understand something, don't condemn it. Help instead. Because someone is not like you, don't condemn them. Help instead. The house of God has many rooms, take yours and help those who can't find theirs, towards theirs. As Akhtar wrote last week, "every person is just short of one happiness, every house short of just one room." everyone can have everything they want, if others help them getting it. Help others get what they want and you will have what you want. I am prompted to say the above after watching Mira Nair's (she who stole our table and made us wait for our crabs and fried surmai) brilliant film monsoon wedding. This is an Indian home and an Indian wedding, we are all like that, everything is not right, this is reality, Hum Aapke Hain Kaun was an apology. Crafted by an international crew and an ensemble of talented Indian actors. This is real families and what real families hide. This is cinema at it's best, with edge, authenticity, shot on 16 mm but larger than life; on the surface is all the preparation and pomp, underneath is the truth of our lives; we do what we don't want to do, go through with what we don't want to go through with, only because of appearances. Huh! Appearances , the great Indian motivator! 

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 More people than will speak are victims of child abuse. More Indian girls and boys have been violated by an elder in the family than we will publicly know. And most endure the private hell because they won't shatter the family's heaven. Here too it goes the same way, until towards a refreshing climax, the young woman is unable to hide anymore and exposes the truth and the father of the bride takes the stand: that never mind family honour and society and whatever else. Love and understanding of the one you love comes first; liberation does come, the wedding awash by symbolic rain takes place. Put everything last, put love first and all will work out well. The pak mobeds of fran, pious priests broke bondage with love and truth. To stand by, no matter what. To love with the imperfections. To be bigger than the limitations and more than anything else to be honest and have that honesty accepted even by a society and a family that finds it difficult to, is the touchstone of life. Everything else pales, everything else is small. This is what life is about, being human is about, this is what being a family is about. Sexual abuse, incest, unhappy relationships, dead marriages are burdens. People punish themselves with secrecy, people punish themselves by not asking for help. Speak... And god will make sure someone hears. Just speak. It's time to change, to be intelligent, to be alive, to really honour the good, help the bad and fight the ugly. Fight the ugly. It's so imperative to be mature, because then half the battle is won. It's so imperative to be honest, because then the whole war is won.     People who have suffered sexual abuse need to speak now. People who are in relationships they don't want to be in, need to speak now. People who are in a position to help, need to help now. People need to grow up, India needs to grow up. We can't allow people to be hurt and lives to be damaged just because we don't want to stir the waters. Big hearts, bright minds and a hundred heartfelts and Mira Nairs have tried to help you get it. Get it now. One beat of your honest heart to make the shift finally from unhappiness to happiness. One beat and those two tiny keys. All we're telling you is find the gravitas, grow up, get with-it, take the rope, wake your soul and claim your life. Speak... And God will make sure someone hears. Here's the link to the original published article Times of India- Speak now and God will hearThis is the original article from Times of India, we do have any ownership.